How you can heal your Broken Heart

Are you grieving excessively over a lost love? Whether that love was lost due to death or because they chose to leave I have a few suggestions that might help you with your broken heart.

First off, I want to say that grieving is good and necessary. So that when a tragedy happens you should grieve. In fact, I would encourage it, cry, cry long, cry hard and cry for awhile. Listen to sad songs, look at photographs, watch sad movies, get it all out and let grief run it's full course. However after that time of grieving is done if you find yourself still grieving after years maybe, well maybe it's time to take a different road.

I once had a dog (and no this isn't about my dog..although the death of a beloved pet is very painful). I wrote about him, about how he died and how it took me half a year to even begin to get over his death. I didn't start to overcome my grief until a friend of mine said in passing “you must have received a great deal of joy from your dog to be grieving so”. That thought was the key that turned the lock in my sad grieving heart and set me upon the path of healing.

Everything under the sun is temporary, everything! Let your grief be turned into gratefulness, gratefulness that you had a moment of joy, a moment of happiness, be grateful that you were in love. This feeling of gratefulness will be a salve or a balm to your wounded heart and with every breath of gratefulness lies the hope of someday experiencing love again. It will be like the morning after a hard rain when everything is clean and fresh. You will be able to live again with the joy of knowing you experienced one of the greatest experiences a human being can... and that is love.

Maybe the person you loved couldn't or didn't love you back in the way you desired so as to consummate your love. Therefore, you heart is broken. Nevertheless, you felt the love in your heart which means that you carry the love inside of you. There are many people out there that cannot love. How wonderful that you have the gift of love in your heart. Don't you see what a gift that is? If you carry the love in your heart you can find another soul to lavish your love on. It's inside you and with you and no one can take it from you.

Listen; how many people go through their entire lives never hearing the words “I Love You”? If you have heard those words and now are grieving because you no longer hear them, let gratefulness wash over your broken heart. Be grateful that you heard them and experienced the joy that some will never hear, not once in their whole life. Even if that joy was short-lived. Isn't it better to have experienced it for a moment than never to have experienced it at all?

Once you begin to train your heart to feel gratefulness rather than sorrow over your past your broken heart will begin to heal. That healing may take awhile but you will heal and you will heal in such a way that maybe the gift of love will find it's way to you again.